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"Just a fucked up little girl looking for her own peace of mind."

"Tired Love" by Claire Luisa (via claireluisa)

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If someone wants to hurt, I have learned that they will. No matter how much you don’t want them to, if they want to, they will. But this isn’t about people; this is about love because if love wants to hurt, it will. If love is suicidal and not asking to be saved it will drown. And you can hold it up, oh god, can you hold it up. And it will breathe and you will whisper, “Swim darling, swim, the shore is just over there. Swim.” And then love will go limp in your hands. You won’t be able to carry its weight for much longer. So let it go. Let it go. Let it go.
You can wake up tired love with a cup of coffee, but often tired love is really suicidal love that hasn’t quite gotten around to writing the letter. That’s what I’ve learned in my time here. That’s what I’ve learned about people and love. If you love something let it go. Bullshit. If you love something hold onto it tighter than you’ve ever held onto anything. If it can’t love you, let it go. If the love gets lethargic, if the love gets forced, if the love gets reckless, if the love stops talking about the future, because it’s physically impossible to imagine one, let it go.
This is not to be confused with when the person you love comes to you ready to dive into the ocean and never come back. People are different from love. More apt to be saved. I do not know what to say about a tired love besides get ready. One day it will be tired and the next you will wake up in the middle of the night and it will be hanging cold from the ceiling above. If you love something, do not let it go. If the love itself wants to go, it will. And you can fight for those last few days, or you can tell it to dance away into a full moon’s beams or tell the love to pick a flower to perch itself to. When the love gets tired, when the love gets suicidal, you still have time to let it go peacefully. Let it go as beautiful as it was when it was awake and happy. When love gets tired, let it go.

Gender Neutral Parenting: 5 Ways To Avoid Implicit Sexism (via Everyday Feminism)

The experiment mentioned is available in full HERE.   

(via notes-on-intersectional-feminism)

(via golemprince)

In one experiment, mothers were asked to guess the steepness of a carpeted slope that their 11-month olds would be able to crawl. Then the children actually crawled the slope, and the difference between actual and mother-predicted angles was noted.

The results showed that both boys and girls were able to crawl the same degree of incline. However, the predictions of the mothers were correct within one degree for the boys and underestimated their daughter’s ability by nine degrees.

What this shows is that the presumption that boys are more physical causes parents to encourage their boys more in physical activities while cautioning their girls. This further translates into providing more opportunities for boys to be physical and fewer for girls. The result?

Boys actually do develop stronger physical skills than girls. But not because of anything innate or biological, but rather because of the gender roles that the parents subconsciously projected onto their babies.
what-is-this-thingy-bobby asked: How does racism against white people not exist?


Answer:

mellomaia:

misandry-mermaid:

Personal discrimination against white people exists.  But racism is systemic and white supremacy makes for a skewed power imbalance in which white people do not face institutionalized oppression based on their race.

Whenever I see a question like this on the Internet, I tend to see the “racism is systemic” explanation go over people’s heads. I would like to offer an extension of this explanation. I, like many people, was taught in school that racism is either believing your own race to be superior or hating individuals of other races. Using these definitions and not considering historical (or present) context, one can certainly argue that racism goes both ways. 

However, context is everything, so let’s consider it. It is true that more and more people have friendships or otherwise positive relationships with people of different races. For this reason, I think that, when many white people hear someone accuse their actions as being racist, they think, “That’s ridiculous, how can I hate my friends?” Further, compared to earlier times, it is becoming rarer for people to publicly announce that they hate someone of a particular race or that they think their own race is superior. If you were to consider this and only this, you might come to the conclusion that there’s no more racism or that it’s on its way out. 

But if there’s no racism, why are people with whose names imply that they are white (e.g. Steve Jones) more likely to be called back for job interviews than people whose names imply that they are POC (e.g. Tahani Tompkins), even when they have similar credentials? x x

Why are white people less likely to see films where the majority of the cast consists of black people or other POC? x

Why are all-white juries more likely to convict black defendants to jail time than to convict white defendants, even when they’ve committed similar crimes? x

Why are black people twice as likely as white people to be born prematurely or with a low birthrate, even when controlling for education and socioeconomic class? x

Why are any of the phenomena described in these charts taking place? x

These are just a few examples of modern-day racism. If racism against white people existed, that would mean that people of color would have sufficient control of institutions like the media, the school and university systems, the medical systems, and the government to oppress white people. We do not have that power. White people do. Even if they truly don’t hate or see themselves as superior to POCs, white people as a group have benefits that POCs as a group do not have. 

what-is-this-thingy-bobby asked: How does racism against white people not exist?


Answer:

mellomaia:

misandry-mermaid:

Personal discrimination against white people exists.  But racism is systemic and white supremacy makes for a skewed power imbalance in which white people do not face institutionalized oppression based on their race.

Whenever I see a question like this on the Internet, I tend to see the “racism is systemic” explanation go over people’s heads. I would like to offer an extension of this explanation. I, like many people, was taught in school that racism is either believing your own race to be superior or hating individuals of other races. Using these definitions and not considering historical (or present) context, one can certainly argue that racism goes both ways. 

However, context is everything, so let’s consider it. It is true that more and more people have friendships or otherwise positive relationships with people of different races. For this reason, I think that, when many white people hear someone accuse their actions as being racist, they think, “That’s ridiculous, how can I hate my friends?” Further, compared to earlier times, it is becoming rarer for people to publicly announce that they hate someone of a particular race or that they think their own race is superior. If you were to consider this and only this, you might come to the conclusion that there’s no more racism or that it’s on its way out. 

But if there’s no racism, why are people with whose names imply that they are white (e.g. Steve Jones) more likely to be called back for job interviews than people whose names imply that they are POC (e.g. Tahani Tompkins), even when they have similar credentials? x x

Why are white people less likely to see films where the majority of the cast consists of black people or other POC? x

Why are all-white juries more likely to convict black defendants to jail time than to convict white defendants, even when they’ve committed similar crimes? x

Why are black people twice as likely as white people to be born prematurely or with a low birthrate, even when controlling for education and socioeconomic class? x

Why are any of the phenomena described in these charts taking place? x

These are just a few examples of modern-day racism. If racism against white people existed, that would mean that people of color would have sufficient control of institutions like the media, the school and university systems, the medical systems, and the government to oppress white people. We do not have that power. White people do. Even if they truly don’t hate or see themselves as superior to POCs, white people as a group have benefits that POCs as a group do not have. 

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